Notes

Cheating in a relationship is a choice, not a mistake:
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Love, trust, and respect are the basis of every relationship. To have one’s trust broken or to be betrayed by a loved one can leave permanent scars. Indeed it is highly painful and disheartening to discuss deception and infidelity but it is nevertheless essential to understand it.

Cheating in a marriage or a relationship is a dreadful and selfish act. It shows how you think of no one but yourself. It also shows a great deal of inconsideration towards how others feel. Unfortunately you hear of such incidents happening very often nowadays. It’s just sad and seems like honesty and moral ethics have lost all value.
“I’m sorry I cheated on you. I didn’t mean to do it, I was very drunk. It was just a mistake.” Something you hear from the cheater every time!

They consider the action a mistake but that’s where they are wrong. Cheating is not a mistake but it is a choice that was made by them. It can be called a sin or a wrong-doing but not a mistake. This is what many fail to understand and they let the cheaters off the hook easy.It is an inadvertent act, something that is done deliberately by choice. It would only be counted as a mistake if it was accidental and one had no control over the situation but that is not even possible in any case. All of you who consider cheating a mistake, please correct your understanding of it. It is no mistake.What’s worse are the shallow ones who cheat but go around passing blames on others rather than accepting responsibility for what they have done. Their body’s defense mechanism starts acting up and instead of feeling guilty and apologetic, they feel the need to defend themselves and somehow justify what they did.At times they would say their partner was never there for them or he /she did not give them the satisfaction they needed. Other times they would blame it on intoxication but then again, that too is a choice they made so no matter how you round it up it all concludes to the fact that they are wrong.

It so happens that sometimes when one feels guilty their body’s defense mechanism converts those emotions into anger. Even though they know what they have done is wrong, they will defend themselves with anger manipulating the innocent into thinking they were guilty and it is entirely their fault. This is a form of not only an abusive relationship but also of an abnormal partner.

To be able to get over the horrible feeling of betrayal, it is essential to first accept that you are not at fault no matter how much your partner tries to manipulate you into thinking so.

To those who cheat, the least you can do is accept some responsibility for your actions and sincerely apologize for your actions. If you don’t feel guilty, there is definitely something wrong with you because that’s abnormal and you probably need help.Have you ever been cheated on? How did you deal with it? Why don’t people realize that cheating is a choice not a mistake?