Notes

Hi, I am Tiny. I am old enough to be responsible in all legal matters. Some say, I am old enough to be their uncle. Also, I am bad at English grammar so please bear with me as you read this. Currently I am dating someone special who I love enough to shield anything that was thrown at me.

So, in the response of Jene's notes today (Oct 19, 2016), I am not sure where do we go from here. It is true that we fought a lot of times but there are plenty of times where we had a lot of fun. So let me address some concerns that I have with this relationship.

1. I want to be with someone who also committed in a relationship. Having someone who always say that they want to break up is always thinking about breaking up.. and that kind of mentality is not good. Because they are not thinking about the relationship but how to get out from it. That being said, breaking up is not going to solve anything - it is only will hurt one or another (I feel hurt whenever someone tells me this kind of things).
2. It is nice to spend time together but It is better if we can socialize. As Jene mentioned, she was having a lot of fun before going out with me. I want Jene to have as much fun as before, by hanging out with her friends, doing activities that can strengthen their bond together. If she wants to equalize her level of amusement prior to this relationship, I am okay with that as well - as long as we can spend time together as a couple (balance life).
3. It is imperative to make decision together as a couple. Some of the fights that we had in the past, I believe, was caused by either party (Tiny or Jene) was not communicating clearly about their expectation of one another. Therefore, when a concern arise, it always ended up to be a fight between Tiny and Jene.
These are the steps that I think it could help:
a. Let go of your anger
b. Discover the issue/expectation
c. Communicate clearly and gracefully (with love) to one another
d. Negotiate of what can be done
e. Come into agreement of what needs to be done

My feeling toward Jene has not changed and still willing to pursue this relationship together. However, I believe, we need to address those 3 points above in order to have a successful committed relationship. I am committed to have a relationship with Jene, as I mentioned in the first official and printed letter, as long as Jene is also want to be committed to have a relationship with me.