Notes

MXXID (unhealthy): very easily hurt; sometimes let their feelings overwhelm them; feel a yearning for acceptance among their peers; tells white lies to protect other people's feelings, so they won't feel bad; sometimes grovels to win people back; believes public opinion can mean a lot; can't tolerate people leaving/abandoning them; the perception of impending separation or rejection, or the loss of external structure, can lead to profound changes in their self-image, affect, cognition, and behavior; strives for perfection to please the world; fears losing what they have; avoids thinking about certain things because if they do, it will unsettle them; requires the security in a romantic relationship of knowing the other person would never leave them; feels hurt or attacked when someone misunderstands them; needs to be needed; can experience frantic behaviors towards abandonment (whether real or perceived); more aware of what others think than what they think; feels empty when they are romantically single; more aware of what others feel than what they feel; sometimes miss seeing or communicating the hard truth of situations; more likely to have never been 100% independent, self-reliant; thinks people can read their thoughts; believes their behavioral tendencies have largely been shaped by their environment; they are bothered if people don't like them; only do well in affirming situations; self conscious; if they end a relationship, it makes them feel bad if the other person is fine with that; even when they know they don't want to be with someone and they end things, it can still take them months to get over; even if they know they don't like someone enough for it to work long term, it can still hurt if that person breaks up with them; their worst fear is to be forgotten and/or overlooked; are as interested in knowing why people dislike them as they are in why they like them; their actions are predominately motivated by how they'll cause others to view them; focus more on how much a romantic partner likes/wants them than how much they like/want the romantic partner; being disliked by others causes them anxiety; it is easier for them to connect with a romantic partner than with themself; wishes life were easier; their need for closeness and emotional safety overwhelm them; spends a lot of time thinking about the real me vs. the expected me; pretends to be normal, that there is nothing wrong with them, that they are not as different as they know they are; prone to self criticism for not being as loving as they think they should be; dependent on the support and nurturance of others; strives for perfection to please others; worries about doing anything that would estrange someone they liked; defined by a need to be liked; unhappy when not in a romantic relationship; wants to make friends and be close to people but is scared they won't be liked; swayed by their emotions; incredibly sensitive and hypercritical of self; mirrors the behaviors of those they care about; needs people to love them because they can't; greatest fear is abandonment; dislikes themself but wants others to love them