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Overcoming the Fear of Writing
"I usually knew that there will come a day when I am going to choose to walk this certain road. But yesterday I did not know that day is today".
Nagrag'una

Every one of us has some type of dream, even us coaches.

Not once it has happened certainly to me that following a coaching session I've arrived at ask myself "just what do I do to create my dreams possible"?, We as coaches have become proud of our clients for achieving what they need, focused on their vision, working by the program of action, having paradigms shattered, experienced breakthroughs and so forth.

Aren't you as a professional coach, the one that believes: "A man is similar to a ship, they are both very safe at port, but that's not reason why these were built"? And here you, delaying, giving excuses and finding all the possible known reasons for not making your dream become more active! "Writing". Being an author, writing and best seller, you know this is something you would want, you've imagined it one thousand times, you've dreamt of the way the cover will look like, of the good reviews in a prestigious and popular newspapers and magazines, profits from Amazon, clients who'll turn for you after reading your book, workshops, lectures, maybe even additional products to opt for the book and characters.

You considered coaching after going right through a sharp twist in your life, you've decided to help as many people as possible, you understand within you that this book you will write can help many, but it does little and less good, being solely in your hands.

The idea of this article is not only to greatly help other coaches among you who imagine writing, and coaches who view writing being an excellent marketing tool;
This short article also provides tools which will suit every coach and coachee at any field, to create his dream possible.

So to do this goal and to move from dream to reality, from delaying to action, from speaking with doing,
We should begin by checking what's the story behind the story, this unwritten book.
Every single writer has a story behind its writing. What brought him to start and just why did he choose writing as a kind of expression. But you can find the ones that their "writing story" is still in it's midst. They have not yet begun writing, or they write in secret and so are afraid to create public their writings. What do they will have in keeping? They both want, extremely badly, to succeed, to create their writings.

To be authors, journalists, or distinguished writers. But because whenever they sit in front of an empty page, with their favorite pen, the hand won't move. Or if they sit while watching computer, the chair nice and tidy, a cup of coffee by their side, all's ready. However the keyboard keeps silent. Suddenly they find a reason to go up from the chair, as well as perhaps not come back aswell.

What happened from the moment they sat on the chair with enthusiasm and a will to write, to the moment if they decided they would get right up and leave? In these moments, instead of being centered on writing, the mind works on another direction. It concentrated and targets out negative thoughts, the thoughts that come inside our way, drain energy from us, get the wind out of our sails and keep us from going on.

Thoughts like:

o I'm not fit to write.

o Who will this interest?

o No chance that anything will come out of this.

o This will be a crushing failure.

o I'm not as literate as I need to be.

o I've no degree.

o I have spelling mistakes.

o My entire life isn't interesting enough,

o And if this should succeed, what next?

o I am going to not bear such success and appreciation.

o The bar will rise; things will undoubtedly be expected of me.

o I will disappoint.

o The critics will crucify me.

o I don't desire to be exposed, under the light.

o Once you're up, it is possible to only go down.

For some folks, the yearning to become authors continues on longer and even many years, to a spot where it's better to imagine it, to see writing as some charming fantasy, and not as a reality which could smash inside our face if we fail. So what do we do? Firstly let's get some inspiration from Lance Armstrong, the cyclists that beat cancer: dealing with fear could be momentary, however the surrendering to it is eternal. A fantastic phrase.

Listed below are 5 ways, by which you could identify personal approaches that mostly lead to failure. Pay attention, in the event that you chance your attitude, you chance the result!

5 points to recognize a predetermined failure (for several fields and scopes)

1. Negativity:

Negativity towards ourselves, towards our writing, and towards those all around us is really a warning for a predetermined failure. Make an effort to focus on the positive, and remind yourselves you are making steps to promote your dream. Many succeeded, why not you? If you experience bay criticism of one's writings, remember that there are millions of people on earth, and an incredible number of opinions. For the information, Henry Ford, Donald Trump, Rubin Sharma, J. K. Roiling and even Madonna, tried and tried often, without success, before big moment.

2. Blaming an outside element:

It isn't me; it is the parents, the education, the book companies, the environment, recession and the country. Right? Wrong. The responsibility for your life is in your hands, and not in anyone else's. life is yours, the dream is yours, and don't expect anyone else to live you life, or bring everything completely for you. So take responsibility and make the initial steps to make your dream a reality, only you have the power. Remember - "a guy isn't remembered for his secret thoughts".

3. Labeling yourself

I'm not skillful, I'm not smart, I don't have it, I don't have any imagination, I'm unlucky, I'm not interesting, I'm not an author... most of us label ourselves and therefore doom their fate. Usually it's just a self fulfilling prophecy. Better off without. What is the label you would like to have? Why not chance the old one with a new? It's possible, and works miracles, as we will demonstrate once we carry on.

4. foreseeing a preset future

Some believe that you can find unique people that can foresee the near future. Certain Stars and popular people even pay a hefty some for all those foreseers whose name precedes them. What about you, do you think t here 's any chance you might open a prophesizing business soon? If the answer is not any, then how is it that you are willing to put your daily life dream in stake, because you think "it does not have any future"? not write because "no publicists will ever accept me", or "no one will read it"? we seldom know very well what will happen in a minute, not to mention a month, or a year, or more. You don't know what the future has installed for you if you make real you imagine writing, but you certainly know what's predicted for you if you choose not to write. You'll simply.. not write.

5. everything or nothing thoughts

These thought are total thoughts. Why stay writing if I'll never create a best seller? EASILY don't have time to write 8 hours each day, I will not write at all. If I don't succeed, I'll never write again. If my spouse, the lecturer, a particular book publishing firm don't like it, I'll never show it to another soul, etc. these are thoughts that their whole aim is to despair and to get the wind from your sails, even before you've started. On paper, the road may be the goal, and for that it's important to set realistic goals. Like sitting one hour a day in front of the writing sheet or the computer, (rather than get up, even though nothing happens!) like writing a full page each day and proceed gradually.

Given that we've identified several of the reasons for the predetermined failure, let's proceed to the more interesting part. So what can we do about it?

Let's begin; to start with, to answer we must ask ourselves 3 short questions:

1. When do we mostly feel the fear of writing?

2. What does it make you feel?

3. Does it help us reach our goals?

Fear is a shady character. It knows exactly whenever we grow weeks, when's as soon as we least need to hear it, and there and it starts it's speeches. It's like the evil leprekon on our shoulder, always turning up in the proper moment to get in the way. When we listen to the leprekon, we're really saying "yes" to fear. And when we say "yes" to fear we also say "no" to other activities. We say no to out dream, no to writing, no to creativity, no to happiness and fulfillment, no to success, occupation and income from what we want to do. But believe it or now, we're not those who choose whether to hear believe the leprekon. The good thing is, there are trick to shut him up...

10 exercises that will help you identify and neutralize worries of writing:

1. Write down the items you give up once you say "yes" to fear.

2. Jot down the negative sentences that rises from your head (what the leprekon says) once you think of writing. For instance: "I'm not an original person", or: "there is no chance I'll do well". Every bad thing that drifts during your heads, just obtain it all on paper.

3. Now, in front of every bad sentence write it's opposite, and start memorizing the counter sentences. For example: "I'm an extremely original person", and: "there's a good chance I'll prosper", and so forth. We've been telling ourselves the negative sentences for years, and they're assimilated well. All that it requires for the assimilate the new ones, gets use to them.

4. Think of an interval when writing went well and you also enjoyed it. What would the "me" of then tell you today? Think of your favorite author. What would he give you advice?

5. Choose a sentence that would be for you a path finding compos, an inspiring phrase, that reading it will provoke enthusiasm and action. Write it down, and hang it in a place you'll see it the most. Like, for instance, Bach's beautiful phrase: "Never is really a man given a wish, without haven been given the strength to fulfill it", or Paulo Coelho's charming "When you want something, the whole universe turn to assist you fulfill your wish".

6. Think about yourself as a heat balloon, you would like to fly higher to the sky, but there are sacks tied to you which restrain you. What's atlanta divorce attorneys sack? Fear, criticism, a past experience? Write down from which sack you want to part from, and after ridding yourself of these the writing will continue much smoother, and write a goodbye letter for them.

7. Imagine yourself entering a book store. What question would one ask the workers there to really get your own book?

8. Read Julia Cameron's wonderful "Way of the Artist", a book which focuses on releasing writer blocks, and other arts through writing. High recommended.

9. Set an everyday little goal, which on the main one hand is worthy and admirable, and on the other side is reachable. For example, write 3 pages each day, no matter what the subject.

10. Each evening dedicate a few minutes to answer these questions:

o Have I worked today in anyway to market my dream to write?

o Out of the a day I had, just how many of these did I dedicate to this goal?

o If I wrote today - how did I feel afterwards?

o EASILY haven't written today, what did I quit? Looking back, what should I have done so I would've written?

o Who and what managed me today? Fear or I?

o What exactly are my goals for tomorrow?

In conclusion, Let me commend you all for reading the article. Part of recovering from worries is gaining knowledge on the subject that we fear. A man's life is similar to a book, and it gets wonderful as soon as he becomes their author. I wish you much success.

I add herein part of Nelson Mandel's speech that inspires me:

Our Deepest Fear

From the 1994 Inaugural Speech of Nelson Mandela

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that a lot of frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you never to be? You are a kid of God.
Your playing small will not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking in order that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all designed to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that's within us. It isn't just in some folks; it's in everyone. So when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other folks permission to do the same.
Once we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Noam Mankowitz (pmcc) is a leading professional Master Certified Coach and Mentor who has experience working with a huge selection of individual clients and organizations, globally. He is the Founder, Head Coach and president of Inner-View.Org [http://www.inner-view.org/noam/]

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