Notes

Yes, I did say that not all cis people are transphobic, because it's absolutely ridiculous to run around saying that everybody is. Yes, we are all raised in a cisnormative society, yes, cisgender is promoted as the "norm" and there are plenty of genuinely transphobic cisgender people out there, but some cisgenders genuinely try to be better than the cisnormative society. Some cisgenders do everything they can to show their respect, to use a person's proper pronouns, to offer support, and it's really shitty to call every single cisgender person transphobic even when some are trying their hardest to be better than that. So what if we're in a cisnormative society? If somebody is being respectful of and understanding of someone who's transgender, that's no reason to be running around shouting "everyone is transphobic!!!" Generalizing and saying that EVERY SINGLE cisgender person is transphobic isn't the same as calling someone specific out for individual, gross behavior.