Notes

Beyond The Gates Of Death
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Death is often difficult to talk about. Yet, most people will, at some point, experience the painful, difficult loss of a loved one. The death of a loved one is one of the most horrific experiences there is. It does not matter if the death was an accident, a terminal illness or an unexpected event. Sometimes death brings families together. Sometimes it splits them up. Sometimes death takes a young child or an elderly relative; regardless, the emotional trauma can be extensive.

My mother tried to hold on as long as she could. I told her that I would see her at the other side and not to be afraid. She did so much for me. Now it is time for her to be with my father. I read my mother her own private eulogy which she loved. She nodded and smiled. I held her hand. She squeezed my hand and she understood. She said "I lo." with all of her remaining breath. She was finally ready to die. I said good-bye and cried, and cried, and cried. She died a few days later.

I've learned that most everyone is living "too fast". By our choices we can choose to live "fast" and miss the beauty and treasures of life, or choose to live slower, appreciatively, in a way which enriches our experience of the gift of life.

By recognizing that death has the capability to stretch out its arm and tap you on the shoulder to let you know that the final day has come, you will always be aware that time is fleeting. Like the shadow that mirrors your every footstep, the entity of death is like the shadow in each day. But, if you embrace death as a friend or respected acquaintance, it will be your reminder to live life fully. No one encourages death, but by understanding that it will come to each of us, we can learn to make better decisions in life; decisions to feel proud of. Acknowledge its existence as a reminder to strive for optimum happiness each day.

The advantage of an actual insurance policy is that the money can be used in any way the beneficiary needs to use it. A portion could be paid to the funeral home. But anything left over could be spent on other bills, or even saved for the beneficiary's own use.




After three days in the first room, the next inspiration came to me. Sell the house. I talked with Hannah, my youngest daughter who still lived in the house with me. We agreed. We were both ready to let it go. I called a real estate manager and we made a plan to walk through the house and put it on the market in 4 weeks. I was in action mode. I woke up every morning with the question. What action do I take today to release the house? Clear next steps emerged every day. Every week layer after layer after layer was cleared out of the house.

And even if it isn't, it should still be used. It isn't called "capital deterrence", it's called "capital punishment". Let the punishment fit the crime.

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