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Confronting Your Fears
Did you understand that "fear" is a thing that just about affects everyone for some reason or another, of which it is also something that we shouldn't be scared of either. Instead, we ought to figure out how to embrace it because, by overcoming fear, we are in need of not worry about the problem anymore. Thus this would allow us to enjoy life a whole lot happier.

Sure, for a few, fear can be an adrenaline rush and for some, fear can pretty much ruin their entire lives in one way or other. From what extent or degree that fear would ruin someone's life would depend on how much that fear affects that individual's life, and their daily activities.

For example, if a person has a concern with heights or flying then it could pretty much render they would much prefer to take holidays that involves transport by car, and other things that involves height such as going on an escalator, riding in a good start, or climbing up a ladder would be a non-visit area.

By all means it will not ruin their lives completely, but it would certainly have a profound effect on their daily lives and those around them i.e. close family and friends.

However on a different note, there are several other styles of fear and one that most commonly affects everyone in some way or other is:

"The Fear of Failure."

It is also probably regarded as one of the biggest fears people will experience during some point in their lives.

Fear of failure could be regarded as something that was influenced since our childhood lives. The reason why I state that is that when we were a child, whenever we did something wrong, our parents, teachers, guardians etc... would probably grill us to death with criticism and comments about what we did wrong, why we were so useless, and that failure had not been a option.

In fact, we were instilled with the idea that failure pretty much meant Armageddon, end of the world, that if we failed, we were useless and that they were wasting their time with us, since we didn't achieve what they wanted.

The problem is they didn't realise or recognize that, if you instil the fear of failure in a child from an early on age, it could have an unhealthy profound influence on their later lives, that could be passed onto another generation.

That effect serves as a "daunting incompetency"

"Daunting incompetency" is like having a psychological mental leash effect where when someone is incredibly criticised to a spot where, when fear develops beyond a certain stage. It comes with an psychological haunting effect which places the individual in a state of mentality, where they think and believe that whatever they do, it'll always be wrong, that they can never do anything right, and that they are always continuously being accessed and monitored.

Additionally, it also gets the capacity to make someone feel powerless and cause a void in one's own self-confidence, which also makes them vulnerable to the effects to be struggling to make decisions for themselves, and also have to rely upon others to choose for them instead.

Obviously as with all things in life is, not everyone will establish this type of mentality or such state of mind, because surprisingly they are individuals who have yet to find or experienced failure.

Strange as that may sound, but there are actual people nowadays who have never failed and it is these individuals that should be the most worried because when failure comes knocking on the doorstep. One thing that's quite is they will be the most unprepared to deal with the aftermath.

Then there are anyone who has seen failure and because, the fear of failure has had such an devastating impact previously on the lives they become extremely competitive, they have the utmost need to succeed at everything they do and become the best at what they do, and they try to protect themselves from the fear of failure at all costs.

What's most interesting to learn is that anyone who has not yet discovered or experienced failure, and the ones who have and try to safeguard themselves from failure again, have the following in common. In the rear of their mind, their inner self, they will have a common weakness.

That weakness is they just can't and can not accept failure in virtually any shape, form or any situation. When they do eventually fail, they panic, get highly stressed concerning the situation and some of them even develop: mental breakdowns, anger, depression, as well as being easily agitated and impatient.

Traits and symptoms which if developed even further could lead to a potential disaster and perhaps even requiring visits to a mental institution or requiring the help of a psychiatrist.

Seriously, worries and thought of failure alone can exert great pressures on an individual own mind, which with out a break, or a while to relax can have disastrous consequences, of which the aforementioned could even possibly ruin an individuals' life.

However, fear whether than maintain the proper execution of phobias, or fear in relation to failure, or rejection can be controlled, overcome and dispelled.

The easiest way to approach it would be to first establish the reasons of one's fear, then planning for a solution to approach and overcome it. Did you know I use to be frightened of spiders, creepy crawlies and other things that had 6 legs or more as a kid. It terrified me so much that whenever I saw one, I would yell for either my mum or my younger brother, and leap off the ground on to something, whether that has been the sofa, a chair, table, bed etc...

Luckily now, I'm not freaked out by then. My only guess is that perhaps as one matures, confidence grows and sooner or later phobias disappear. Or it could have been that unfortunate circumstances caused for desperate measures.

jars of clean copy You see, one day when it happened, out or nowhere, there was this spider suddenly scuttling along the kitchen floor. I freaked out initially, but I thought, easily don't stop this thing, what happens if it crawls upstairs and enters my mouth whilst asleep.

And so I started to seek and destroy mission, find the spider and give it a good bashing. Somehow it didn't end up like that.

Instead, I saw it enter a large part and I grabbed a glass jar and placed it over, trapping the indegent thing inside, which I had always feared from.

I contemplated about leaving it there to either my mum or my buddy ahead along and kill it, but as I was thinking, I started to look at it for a while, and thought to myself, they really aren't that scary at all. In fact, they may be the ones who are scared of me instead.

And so I visited the lounge, grabbed a bit of card which I couldn't find (I had to create do with a bit of scrap paper folded in halves until it because quite stiff, then gently and carefully slipped it along the floor and beneath the glass jar, making certain it couldn't escape, quickly flipped it over, hand with paper on the end, walked to the front door, and ignore it outside.

It was at that point, I felt somewhat strange. Strange in that yes, I did freak out a little at first, and yes, I did have intentions to kill it, but I didn't. Instead, I simply temporarily captured it in a glass jar and then allow it free back beyond your house to do its business.

However, the primary concern was that I also felt like I was free. Clear of what I had feared for many of my childhood years and free for the reason that, I could confront these 8 legged invertebrates and still be able to remain calm, cool and for once, devoid of to rely on others to cope with the situation.

It certainly signalled a new change for me. For a few, they may think I'm a wuss to be scared of a spider, but seriously, the sense of feeling you obtain once you have confronted your fear which has been scaring the hell out of you for quite some time is indescribable. So, when you have any fears, confront them and if you have any doubts, seek assist in resolving them at first.

However if you really want to be free from your fears whether that be spiders, heights, failure or other things that you may well be afraid of, you must be prepared to take action steps towards overcoming it and acknowledge that only you yourself can overcome your fear and that it first starts with you changing you mentality perspective.

Remember:

"People who succeed are those who can overcome their very own fears by not letting fear challenging them first, but rather... they challenge fear first!"

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