Notes

Like many New York professional women, I had a psychologist. For many years, we logically processed my mommy and daddy issues and how they were playing out in my negative relationships in the Big Apple.

With all that processing, I was unaware that the growing-up garbage from my family system remained in my energy body, in my chakras. Liberation and evolution came when I learned to clear the emotional energy and understand how each of my chakras impacted my ability to find my Mr. Right.

For those of you looking for your Mr. Right, check out how each one of your chakras plays a role in your search.

First Chakra (Root Chakra): Get grounded.

When thinking about finding the man of your dreams, do you find yourself all up in your head in Debbie Downer mode? For example:

“Oh my gosh, I’ll NEVER find the right guy!” or, “I am going to be the lady living with 50 cats when I get older!”

This chakra keeps you in a place of calm and grounded self-awareness. Energy flows where attention goes, if you approach finding love with a sense of grace and ease your experience will flow gracefully and easily.

Second Chakra (Sacral Chakra): Find your magnetic presence.

This chakra tends to run wide open, taking in the energy of others while your own energy leaks out. It causes you to feel drained by other people because you have energy in your space that doesn’t belong to you! When attracting Mr. Right, you want to be in touch with your authentic self (sans the energy of Mom and Dad). There are many techniques that can release others' energy in this chakra so you're 100% in touch with your inner fabulous.

The only time you want this chakra wide open is during sex or in nature alone.

Third Chakra (Solar Plexus Chakra): Strut your stuff.

This is your powerhouse to get your fab self out there through dating sites, asking friends for setups and doing the activities that nourish you. If you have fear and anxiety sitting here, you may find yourself getting all cozy on the couch watching Sex and the City reruns, hoping your Mr. Right will magically walk through the door.

Fourth Chakra (Heart Chakra): Love yourself.

The men you attract are mirrors for the love you think you deserve. Said another way, if you don’t love yourself, it’s going to show up in relationships, which would get a SELL rating on the stock market of LOVE. It’s up to you to clear the inner gunk in your heart that holds you back from your own self-worth. Once you do that, you’ll cultivate a relationship with a BUY rating in no time.

Fifth Chakra (Throat Chakra): Be who you are.

Sometimes we get caught up in appearances and lose ourselves in the quest for love. The fifth chakra allows you to express yourself unabashedly. When you're comfortable in your own skin and express that to the world, then you'll find the man who loves every ounce of that, including your quirks and picky food habits.

Sixth Chakra (Third Eye Chakra): Know your worth.

The belief systems that sit in the sixth chakra form the thoughts that go through your mind daily. If you have negative belief systems sitting in this chakra, like, “I’m not good enough,” or, “I’ll be alone forever” then you'll likely have difficulty finding Mr. Right. The universe is here to support you, so when you can clear these nasty belief systems and get into that good place, you're more likely to manifest the love you seek.

Seventh Chakra (Crown Chakra): Manifest the love you want.

This chakra is about getting connected to spirituality and the idea that each one of you holds the power to manifest the love you want. I've found that the solutions to my history of relationship issues lay within myself. So I embarked on a never-ending journey to clear the gunk from the chakras mentioned above and in turn, changed my relationship reality from bad to great.

In a nutshell, I went from a dark and dreary world of dating emotionally unavailable, inconsistent men to attracting men with a calm, grounded energy. I'm able to form deep connections that I never knew were possible, and I'm loving every minute of it.

If I can do it, you can, too.

So the next time you find yourself playing man-hater music, reminiscing about the men who didn’t treat you well, and about your difficulty finding Mr. Right, consider doing some inner exploration. I promise you, you won’t want to come back.