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Ok, so a couple of things first. 1. Let me talk first w/o interrupting, and you can interject/ask questions after I'm done. 2. A lot of this is going to sound kind of callous, and I'm going to apologize ahead of time, but I would prefer to honest than sugar coat.

First thing I want to talk about is something that I've touched on before, but I'm going to be explicit this time. I don't care if you complain about me and roommate shit to other people (namely Kate or Paige); however, I do have a problem when you are lying or blatantly overexaggerating in such a way that is directly defamatory towards me. When it was about dishes, you were grossly misrepresenting the situation when you talked to Kate, and you would openly bash me in front of our other friends when it would be awkward for me to try and defend myself. When Kate called you out about doing the dishes, and even though I told you straight up that I had nothing to do with that conversation, you shat all over me in front of your parents when I definitely wouldn't be able to do anything. You told them that it was my fault that Kate got shitty with you, even after I had told you I didn't have anything to do with it. Then most recently, you were apparantly bitching about me not letting you turn on the a/c, when my exact words to you were that I didn't care, as long as you didn't turn it up too high. I never, evem a little bit forbade you from turning it on, and you straight up lied when you were bitching to one of our friends about it, when it was a complete non-issue. These incidents on their own wouldn't necessarily be a big deal, but you have made it a habit to make me your proverbial punching bag, and you seem to enjoy making me the bad guy when you are either equally at fault, or there wasn't even as issue in the first place and it makes me look bad to our friends, and it's unbelievably shitty when you do it with your parents. I find it more than a little insulting that it happens in the first place, and that you think that our friends won't let me know that you're shitting all over me. (Especially as they tend to already know the whole story anyway, and therefore know that your exaggerating or lying.) That's thing one. Questions/Comments


Thing two is a lot more sensitive an issue, and I'm probably going to come off sounding like an ass, but it is what it is.... I know that you have a crush on me. You're not exactly subtle, and I'm not the only person who has noticed your odd behavior towards me. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I'm going to tell you right now that I don't feel the same. Now, you can feel however you want, that's not where my concerns and issues come in. Because I don't share your feelings, I'm going to ask that we create some boundaries. For one, when we're in public or at home sometimes, you tend to hover around me and invade my personal space, and I'm going to ask that you respect my personal space and stay at a respectable distance. And since this happened the other day, I'm also going to ask that you not make comments/compliments on my appearance. I don't care if you think it, but you saying it makes me extremely uncomfortable. Next, I know that we talked briefly about this that night at Kate's, and you said that it was only a joke, but your comments about me and Jeff snuggling felt a lot like jelousy. I don't care whether it is or not, but as shitty as it may sound, your feelings are your problem and I'm going to ask that you not take it out on me or him. Along those same lines, an issue that I have... I really don't care if you have a crush on me, it'll fade eventually. However, I do know that before I found out about it, you had pushed really hard to try and get me to give you hugs/ physical affection on the pretenses of friendship and comfort because of your hormones. I think that was kind of a shitty and manipulative thing to do under the circumstances, and I want you to know that I really don't think that that was ok. One of my biggest issues is that you did that, and it has broken a lot of the trust I had in you. I'm going to ask that you give me some space for awhile, while I work out my feelings on this. During that time, I hope you can work on moving on now that you know that I don't return your feelings. Questions/Comments