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How Can Therapy Shed Light on How to Deal With Aggressive People?
Are you aware of what your habitual responses are towards arguments or tricky interactions?
Just reflect for just go to this website on how you react to:
- someone shouting at you?
- a boss who's over stepping the boundaries?
- your lover employing a passive aggressive tone closer?
You may answer these in another way but sadly the most common approaches to respond is with:
- a reflective mirror response (where we utilize same tone back)
- freezing with silence (where we bottle up the feelings inside and say nothing)
- ignoring the comment and hoping it is going to go away
The history as to why we might start using these responses is commonly varied and hard to pin point. Nevertheless by responding like this we only intensify the argument more. None of the could have the required effect of attempting to help keep our amount of power evenly distributed.
Below are alternative ways and involve saying a 'three sentence' assertive response sentence;
First stage: "I FEEL.."
Second stage: "WHEN YOU... "
Third stage: "I PREFER... "
For example; the second stages are joined together:
'I feel' sad - when you.. (i.e. raise your voice at me) or 'I feel' angry - when you.. (i.e. keep telling me to complete things) or 'I feel' scared - when you.. (i.e. throw things at me)
THIRD STAGE
'I would like... (i.e. you to definitely lessen your voice) to see me once and present some space to finish/for you to definitely stop throwing things).
This tool has been in existence for donkey years and is extensively recorded. The trick though would be to hold these three sentences within the fore front in our mind to boost our assertive communications.
You could be surprised how difficult it would be to stick to any or all in the stages. Most people tend to will lose out on naming the sensation or forget to say the 'I prefer' part at the end or use the sentences in an highly aggressive or passive aggressive tone.
I encourage you to definitely try using these three sentences which has a neutral tone at heart. It also may be worth experimenting on strangers, close family, friends and even on every opportunity you'll be able to until it is another nature response. Once you have the 3 sentences flowing consecutively it is possible to vary them in your words.
Overall exploring this topic on a deeper level with a few therapy could be good for open your self-awareness towards managing aggressive or tricky interactions.
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