Notes

- Women who fall for unavailable men have some profound insecurities and self-esteem issues, and they invest so much in pursuing unavailable men with the following unconscious motive: If the unavailable man finally comes around and commits, they’ll—at long last—have proof that they are worthy. Sadly, without such proof, their self-worth is left hanging in the wind. In addition, these women feel that they've invested so much and waited so long for the unavailable man to come around that the thought of leaving without any payoff is almost unthinkable.
- "We accept the love we think we deserve." ( Perks of being a Wallflower )
- With unavailable people, I felt less alone. Maybe I even felt a little understood. Like me, they were a little lost and hurt. This made me feel a little OK in my own world of lost and hurt. I also considered what I was giving to the relationship (if you could even call it that) and why. Why was I so invested in solving their issues? Why was I so wrapped up in getting inside their head? The reason, I believe, is that getting lost in his drama was an escape from dealing with my own life and issues. I felt like I had a mission and a purpose. For whatever reason, that felt kind of nice (at least for a little while).
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