Notes

How Couples Can Communicate Over Sex
Images and stories of women apparently enjoying sex abound in fictional media. Even a responsive woman, who has the experience of orgasm through masturbation doubts the inevitable conclusion from her own experience. But it is much more difficult for women who never experience orgasm. They have nothing to replace the fiction with. Most women conclude that these fictional experiences must be true for some undefined other women. At the same time, all the ego and bravado causes others to conclude that it is all a hoax. But this private conclusion is never promoted.

There is no reliable source of sex information. So women never know what they can realistically expect from their sexual experiences. Women themselves rarely compare notes over sex honestly. Most women are too embarrassed to discuss sex. But also women have a natural desire to portray themselves as sexually attractive and normal women. Women interpret their experiences in very different ways. Some, especially the young and inexperienced, tend to reflect the male view that sex is wonderful. Others find it does little for them. But only the positive view is actively promoted.

Sex is vitally important to men and thus non-negotiable. As long as a woman is amenable to intercourse, a man assumes she is happy, even if her behaviour indicates otherwise. Men use silence and a show of affection or simply a couple's routine to initiate sex. They then indicate their displeasure when sex is not offered by using behaviours such as moodiness rather than explicit discussion. Men use emotional pressure to get their own way.

Many people struggle with being honest about their feelings and motives. We don't want to admit our vulnerability and need for reassurance. We feel the only way to protect ourselves and retain some dignity is to go silent. Silence is a way of avoiding conflict but it becomes even more difficult to discuss sex because of the emotionally charged feelings involved. Men like to take risks while women prefer to avoid risk. Men are more likely to drink alcohol, gamble, seek out eroticism and do dangerous activities. Women can open up to others more easily because they have less to feel guilty about. xxx عربي doesn't want a woman to control how he behaves or spends his time. A woman doesn't want a man to control her body and what is done to it.

We tend to keep our private thoughts to ourselves. But over decades, issues arise and these need to be talked through otherwise resentments build up. Men learn that women will often defer to a stronger point of view. Women tend to suggest what they want rather than have a fist fight. But men interpret women's more conciliatory approach as a sign of weakness. Most couples resort to silence. A couple has to be very brave to develop more explicit forms of communication. Ultimately it's easier for a man to look elsewhere if he's not getting the sex he wants rather than invest in communication.

Most alternatives to intercourse require some discussion. It is difficult to communicate consent or objection to sexual activity midstream. Communication over sexual pleasuring ideally takes place after sex, when a couple can compare notes on what worked and what to try next time. It requires a much higher level of trust and communication to discuss ways of sharing our sexual fantasies with a partner during physical sex play.

A more experienced man is cautious in suggesting sex play because he anticipates a woman's disapproval. Rather than accept defeat, a man may take the initiative by exploring his lover's body to see what she will allow him to do. Few women engage proactively on genital stimulation, so men get used to taking the initiative and they assume the responsibility is theirs.
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